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4/10/2018

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Open Letter to NZ Prime Minister: Jacinda Ardern

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10 April, 2018

Dear Jacinda, 
I didn’t expect to be here.  To be honest, I don’t think any mother expects to join this club that I’ve found myself in. You see, I was just like you once. I was at the top of my career eagerly awaiting my scans to know everything was okay with the miracle I had growing inside of me.  I remember that first feeling when she moved and how I’d lie awake at night imagining the fun we’d have together. The family adventures we’d go on, the friends she’d make, answering all those silly questions kids have about life.   When I was 6 months pregnant I saw a child screaming and hitting his mother while I was out shopping. The mother spoke calmly and asked if he wanted to leave. I couldn’t believe she didn’t even discipline him for acting like that! I knew I’d never be a bad parent like her, when my child was born.    
At this stage of my pregnancy, I was just like everyone else.
 
Piper came in to the world unexpectedly with my water breaking on 1/1/11 and before we knew it, she was almost 2 years old. Suddenly, as if someone flipped a switch, she became lost inside herself. She stopped copying words, could no longer grip a spoon, and started crawling instead of walking.  It’s a feeling you can’t describe when your gorgeous, perfect child goes from hitting all their milestones to hitting themselves and others. When you try and catch their head before they slam it against a concrete floor while expressing ear piercing screams of pain for hours, for what seems like no reason at all. People stare and make snide comments behind your back assuming you just have a brat as a kid and I'm a bad parent. The close friends you have slowly disappear, and your antenatal group no longer invites you to play dates. Not because they don’t want to, but because your child is constantly unsettled and it’s probably easier for you that way. Your whole life slowly starts to fall to pieces and you’re left wondering how you even got here.   
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The hardest part of motherhood though, was when I officially received Piper’s diagnosis of Autism. We immersed ourselves in education unlearning everything about parenthood we knew. We enrolled in various workshops and met others who were on their own journey through the spectrum. But no one could prepare us for what would happen once our daughter turned 5 years old and we needed to think about where to send her to school. At 5 years old Piper was still in nappies, had violent outbursts, would strip all her clothes off when she became overwhelmed, was a flight risk, couldn’t communicate, and was not only a danger to herself, but other students and teachers as well.
 
We were extremely lucky to receive high ORS (Ongoing Resource Scheme) funding, but people who had never met her only allocated 10 hours of support a week. This was inadequate for Piper and the school, given there are 30 hours in a school week. She couldn’t self-manage the other 20 hours… The school had try and find funds to make up the difference when my daughter first started due to the severity of her needs.

We sought a review of our ORS countless times but were denied.  Eventually, I was forced to leave the career I worked so hard to achieve. The financial implications to our household has been drastic. With only 10 hours of support for Piper, and no after school or holiday programs in Tauranga for children with special needs, it was impossible for me to continue my career.  

A million questions go through your head when you find out you’ve moved in to the special needs parent club. You try to figure out how it happened, only to realize it doesn’t matter because you can’t change the past. The only thing you can do, is focus on the future and that is why I’m writing you today.
 
Since April is Autism Awareness month, I wanted to explain what life is like when you become a parent to a child with Autism. Most of all though, I wanted to talk to you, mother to mother so you can put yourself in our shoes, as you eagerly await the birth of your first child. Truth is, there are 65,000 kiwis on the autistic spectrum and more being diagnosed every day, and with estimates being 1 in 4 students need some sort of support in school, the chances of experiencing this first hand, is pretty high.

I’ve seen some massive flaws in the system that should be addressed, not just for children with autism but for any child that needs additional support. I understand how impossible it must be to try and splice limited funds in such a way to please every needy group, however ‘children’ were a central focus to your campaign, as they should be for every voting New Zealander.  I’m tired of the blame game between a National led Government and a Labour led Government, only to find our pleas for help become a publicity stunt with the children of New Zealand paying the price.  
We must unite, to bring material change to life in a way that will matter. 
“Only a Labour Government can deliver the resources that schools and parents are crying out for and we plan to invest an additional $4B in education”  
http://www.labour.org.nz/labour_s_positive_education_plan 

“I say there are clear signs of a government that has its priorities all wrong. Labour will redirect funding to frontline staff working directly with schools and children. Every child in New Zealand deserves to get the support they need so that they can succeed in education. They aren’t getting it under National, they will get it under Labour.” 
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 http://www.labour.org.nz/parata_in_denial_over_special_education_crisis  
 
“Re-carving the same size pie amongst a growing number of needy kids will simply result in more going hungry. It’s time the National government woke up to the damage their underfunding is doing to kids’ lives and futures.” 
 
http://www.labour.org.nz/slash_and_burn_of_special_education_support  
 
"Our goal is to uncap the ORS funding and make sure that every child in our schooling system has a right to learning support that they need and that schools are supported properly, and that those who work in our schools as teacher aides are supported and funded properly and actually have pay equity within the system they are working in."
https://www.newsroom.co.nz/2017/09/06/46460/labour-would-restructure-work-and-income#
If Schools have a legal obligation to create a truly inclusive education system, what funding model is required to achieve the dream?
 
As a business consultant, I learned that the school my daughter attends is under huge financial duress due to the current model. It is a Decile 2 School, with a role of 390 students from over 12 different cultural backgrounds and experiences a wide range of socio-economic disparity.  It also has arguably one of the highest number (24) of ORS funded special education students in the country in a mainstreamed school, in addition to High Health, RTLB and special education and behavioral support requirements etc. The school’s success in assisting their ORS funded students, (to which they refer to as their ‘treasures’ because they have added so much joy to their school) is actually sinking them! With their deficit this year totaling $-118,482.26.

They follow their legal obligation of providing an inclusive education to all children, never closing their doors to a child with special needs, while other schools find ways to manage these high need, ‘expensive’ children by expelling them for disruptive behavior, forcing many parents out of work and in to homeschooling.  

I'd like to talk to you about the numbers: 
It’s my understanding a school receives $18.47 per hour before the deduction of GST, holiday pay, sick leave and ACC leaving $15.90 as the actual per hour cost allocated (less than the new minimum wage). Although the funding rate hasn’t changed in many years, Teacher Aide rates increase every year widening the funding gap between what schools receive to pay for teacher aides, and what they need to pay in teacher aide salaries.  Many schools top up the funding gap by using their Operational Grant, or even ​fund-raising via their parent support groups, but that still isn’t enough to cover the deficit at my daughter’s school.
 
The average teacher aide wage at my daughters’ school is $19.47 per hour due to the specialist skills some students require, leaving an average deficit of $-3.57 per hour, per student. Paid over 45 weeks of the year, including holidays for their large team of  Teacher Aides. This means the school will have the deficit of $-118,482.26 to meet their commitments for their students who require additional support over and above the allocated funding this year.  
 
This school has truly become victims of their own success, with my daughter proudly one of their success stories. In the two years she has been supported by this school, the change has been drastic.

My once angry, non-verbal child no longer takes her clothes off in public, and can be found each morning on the school radio, or singing songs at assembly. She is obsessed with Maori culture and participates in Kapa Haka and has most recently joined the schools singing group. The school participates in RDA (Riding for the Disabled) and she can be found at the top of their website demonstrating her sweet and loving nature, and is an example of how drastically a child can improve when fully supported by an inclusive education system. As much as my daughter learns from the other students, they also learn from her and understand that we are all different, but all special in our own ways. Since this school is so successful at polishing its treasures so their individual brilliance can shine, they are now attracting more and more children who require learning support. Parents have heard about this school and have started to move into the school zone so that their special needs children can attend. In some cases, they only bring their ORS children which increases the financial burden even further.
 
Solution
I know there probably isn't a golden bullet to solve this, but if we continue to do the same things and expect a different result, then we are mad.  I would love to see a task-force established that includes representatives from finance, principal's from especially affected schools such as the one mentioned above, teacher aides and a couple of parents like myself. As a business consultant, I’m used to looking for new models to solve old problems and I’d be willing to work with you and others to get the job done!
 
Please let me know when it would be convenient to meet with you so we can truly start to work together and make the difference that was at the heart of your campaign. 
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I look forward to hearing from you.
 
Yours Sincerely,
Erika Harvey
(Piper’s Mum)  


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David Bridson link
4/9/2018 06:09:07 pm

Erika
We have a son with special needs too and I have worked for years in the kinds of school settings you describe. I even know the school you mention well too.

Well done on speaking up so eloquently. It is high time that we put people and equity at the focus of our politics and our education system and I would dearly love to see a multi-party agreement on education. Every change of government wastes millions of tax-payers' money and it is time that this was changed.

I wish you well in helping to address this issue of funding that was neglected by the previous government who were hell-bent on achieving a budget surplus at all costs - but to what end? They did it, but how they did it in part was to cut funding for core services. And now the new government is paying for their obsession with making the books balance. Our much-vaunted 'rock-star economy' appears to be but smoke and mirrors.

He aha te mea nui o te ao? He tangata, he tangata, he tangata.

Kia kaha, kia manawanui

David Bridson

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Terri steyn
4/9/2018 06:13:57 pm

Erika my beautiful friend. What an inspiration you are!

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Doug Lawrence
4/9/2018 07:13:53 pm

This is a true test of your Prime Minister Character. Thank you for your inspirational open letter. If your Prime Minister should personally take on this matter as her personal goal - she will have a long political career. If not, she's just another politician. Best of luck Erika and Piper!

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Gina link
4/9/2018 09:44:35 pm

Ericka I am a mum with a boy on the spectrum and we are having issues aswell with funding and with being in main stream is a must and my son almost needs a full time teacher aide but because of criteria me and the school cannot get more only the 10hrs and that's not enough so I just want to say thank you for speaking up I wouldn't have known where to start

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:39:40 pm

Hi Gina,
I'm working on a new project and I'd love to use a quote from your comment if I can. Would you be happy with that? I'm only using the first name of people and their location if that is okay. Please let me know.

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Ally Attwell
4/10/2018 12:21:17 am

Well said!! I hope she takes you up on your offer x

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Katherine Ewen link
4/10/2018 12:49:32 am

Hi Erika - I endorse everything you have said here. Our future is in all our children and they all need to be treated as equally as possible. My experience over the past nearly 30 years, is if that does not happen, children give up on school and end up in our justice system and by then it is almost too late for them.
Maybe your plea to a female Prime Minister, who is about to have her own baby, will listen - let's see what she is made of!

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:46:58 pm

Thank you so much for your comments Katherine. I agree, it's time to see a major shift within education. This was their campaign platform... I hope they haven't forgotten about the $4B they planned to introduce in to education if elected. (Fingers Crossed)

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Kia King
4/10/2018 12:56:16 am

Pretty powerful stuff. Well done! I hope you get a reply.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:45:10 pm

Thank you! I hope so too but so far I'm only being passed around to various Government bodies. We'll see and I'll keep hoping for a personal response from the Prime Minister.

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Jo Dickey
4/10/2018 01:12:16 am

Erika, you've expressed your concerns in such an articulate and well reasoned way, even though at times your heart must've been breaking. How lovely that Piper is a success story. Hopefully Jacinta will hear your story and be moved to act. You're smart, brave and offer solutions too. Be persistent and don't give up!

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:43:50 pm

I hope we can make some traction. Sadly for the government, I'm quite stubborn so I don't give up very easily.Thank you so much Jo!

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Mary Hand
4/10/2018 03:33:11 am

Well said, my hope is that Jacinda will personally shake our edycation system up to a degree where all children are being enabled to learn. At the moment we are far from achieving this sadly

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:45:49 pm

I hope so too! Thank you so much for commenting!!

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Danni
5/3/2019 01:55:56 pm

We all hoped, sadly resources have been scaled back further in the last 12months! People like RTLB /RT LIT now have targets to be done with kids in 10weeks not 30. You have to be at least 2years behind to get any help then you may get 5hours.
Government false economies! Invest in the early years stops you picking up the tab in later years!:/

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Rachel rowland
4/10/2018 05:40:41 am

love love love the way you have written this letter couldn't have worded it better myself our three children also go to the same amazing school as piper, one child Jessica is acc funded the other sam is dhb so, Jess is fully funded where sam is not he is ors funded and only gets 17 it's funded hours where Jess gets 34 hours funded by acc, it is just not fair and this really does need to be addressed would love to know how you get on with a reply as we could always go to parliament and leave our kiddies there for the day to see how they would cope just thought.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:49:38 pm

Thanks Rachel. Perhaps if we do that they will understand what a few hours is like in our lives and multiply that by forever. It seems backwards that schools have legal obligations to follow inclusion and health and safety - yet the funding model isn't there to support this.

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Danni
5/3/2019 01:59:40 pm

The disparity between ACC & Ministry funding is ATROCIOUS and the Bain of most disabled people. If you have a disability by birth or illness you fight ministry for EVERYTHING get bare min 2nd crap equipment and wait forever. Vs disbility via accident/injury you are well provided for and e ceptionally well funded with all thing..

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Kath McHardy
4/10/2018 05:18:55 pm

Hi Erika,

Thanks for writing this letter! I too have a 8 year old boy with a multi diagnosis of Autism, ADHD and Global developmental delay. The school Jake goes to is amazing too. However his learning needsare high, the process is slow and we have to re-apply for funding for any support each term . This coming term Jake has no teacher aide funding in place so will not get any help. I find this incredibly frustrating and stressfull. We too knew from an early age that Jake wasn't hitting milestones, his behaviour was different etc. He received a lot of help at preschool, then the moment he went to school it stopped. We were turned down from ORRS, and so have now spent the last three years he has been at school applying each term for help. Ridiculous!! This system is broken... so many children need help.

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Karen spencer
4/19/2018 02:34:58 am

Sooo agree Kath- the so called ' system ' has long been broken!! I was a teacher aide at a Hamilton high school and the criteria for funding has been raised so high that not many students receive the orrs funding. It is criminal and heart breaking for every parent who have to battle this ludicrous system. I agree whole heartedly that there must be something done to help these kids who deserve this much required help in their education. We are their voices- so speak up on their behalf!!!!

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:52:27 pm

Thank you for your comments Kath. It is so sad that your story is one I've heard hundreds of times since writing this letter. It has really lit a fire inside me to try and raise this to the public. I dont believe most people know this is happening within our education system unless they're a parent of a child who has diverse needs - or a school who has to find the funding to support them. It is incredibly frustrating and our children are almost punished for improving instead of supported. Its absolutely bizarre.

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Lauren Campbell
4/10/2018 11:56:00 pm

So good Erika! Those hours make all the difference 🖤

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Kellie collingwood
4/11/2018 11:46:55 am

Amazing letter! My James is 12 and ORS funded 16 hours a week. It's not enough! My Sam is 7 and gets no funding at all he is falling through the cracks! Thank you Erika for this letter and being a voice for piper ( she is an amazing young lady a delight to be around) something needs to be done for our treasures.

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Katherine mckeen
4/11/2018 12:13:10 pm

This is such a beautiful and touching story. Personally my children don't have autism but I have a brother who does. I could only imagine how hard it actually would be. Mentally and physically. Big hugs to all the Mama's with autistic children, you guys are all doing a great job. I love the letter written. Very touching.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:56:13 pm

Thank you so much for commenting Katherine. The stories I've been receiving have been heartbreaking. I never realised how many people would respond to this letter and it has really encouraged me to keep going. Thank you xx

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Catherine Trezona link
4/12/2018 09:44:06 pm

Thank you for this well articulated analysis of some of the challenges autistic students and their families are facing. Let's be encouraged that this new Labour government wants to hear from you and has initiated an Education Summit. As national manager of Altogether Autism, I was able to nominate 6 people to attend two Ministry of Education hui in May. But are you also aware of our Prime Minister launching a national conversation about education in Aotearoa NZ? Go to conversation.education.govt.nz to complete this survey. If you have any questions contact Dr David Wales, National Director Learning Support, Ministry of Education 04 439 6462. Catherine Trezona national manager Altogether Autism. Kia kaha whānau.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 03:58:42 pm

Thank you so much Catherine. I did fill our the survey and it is my hope that proper action is taken. I won't give up as I've received hundreds (if not thousands) of emails from people who all have similar stories. It's heartbreaking. Thank you for all you do for those who have Autism. x

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Beatrice sila
4/12/2018 11:03:44 pm

I am a sole parent to 2 beautiful children with Autism Spectrum Disorder, my daughter got ORS funding is in a satellite class and is thriving because she is getting the support she NEEDS. My son on the other hand hasn't got that opportunity, he has just finished his 1st term in mainstream and still hasn't "settled in" at mainstream. He goes to school for 1 hour a day, 5 hours a week because that's all he can manage.

As a sole parent of 2 children on the spectrum, it's important for me to work and finish my degree to help better our situation. We live in a housing nz home, on a main road next to traffic lights and have major safety issues as both my children are runners/wanderers they wear wandersearch trackers. But my hands are tied, because my son isn't in school fulltime i have had to stop working put my studies on hold to support him.

My sons special needs out weighs what the mainstream school can provide for him, in the 1 hour he is at school he exhausts most of there resources needing up to 3 teacher aides at times. He escapes from class, school and on to the road and a bus just missed him once. He has run out of school many times. The school have done all they can to support him, he has teacher aides, RTLB, SLT, EIT, SEA and the team from starship OT and ASD DEVELOPMENTAL co-ordinator. The school have done UBRS, MAPA and TIPS FOR AUTISM training. I too have done alot of parenting courses over the last 3 years to support his learning and development, we do it all courses, training, visual supports, social stories, makaton sign language and NZSL.

They make it impossible to apply for ORS funding, they stop you from even trying and then make you feel like not trying because they say it will be unsuccessful. Especially if you don't meet the criteria the traditional way, if these assessors came in to actually obeserve our kids they would see that our kids do have high needs. They say children legally need to be in school fulltime, lies lies lies i know many like my son who are in mainstream that arnt. Schools are under funded and under staffed, teachers and teacher aides are under valved under paid with massive work loads to take on children with special needs.

I have seeked help from many avenues, i am part of our schools BOT, i even asked our local MP on this issue but no one can help besides MOE assessors who make it impossible to get ORS funding. Meanwhile our children are left behind, not learning anything not belonging to a school/community and their parents a stripped of there human rights to work/studying meanwhile dealing with depression because our needs and our childrens needs are being ignored. Basic needs like the right to an education and the right to work. The education system sucks.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 04:07:00 pm

Beatrice...Wow! Thank you for sharing your story and I'm so sad to say it seems to be the theme with the letters I've been receiving since publishing this letter. We must keep pushing together and thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. Kia Kaha! <3

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Jules
4/13/2018 02:39:48 pm

Hi Erika

Having just left Tauranga, where I was working as a teacher aide with a range of children with needs on all levels of the spectrum, I fully support your letter, your cause, and have signed your petition and have shared.

I was on minimum wage as a teacher aide and working with those on all levels in a secondary environment. The inclusion makes for a much more empathetic character of the mainstreamers, for lack of a better definition. Their ability to recognise difference, support their peers, and learn through involvement is going to make our next generation, hopefully, a much more tolerant one.

I wish yourself, Dan, and Piper a smooth path ahead with much more access to support as a right, rather than a fight.

Kia kaha koutou

Jules

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 04:08:41 pm

Thank you so much Jules! All the best with your move. I believe Teacher Aides have such an important role within schools and I hope they start to be recognised and paid as such. Thank you for commenting!

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Kate
4/13/2018 03:56:31 pm

Hi,

Another Mama to an au-some kiddo here! Thanks for this thought provoking peace.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 04:09:14 pm

Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. xx Kia Kaha.

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Carol
4/15/2018 12:45:04 am

Thanks for sharing such a personal story and helping us understand. I hope it gets read by many, many people.

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Nick Armstrong
4/23/2018 06:14:46 pm

Hi Erika,

I am very glad I found your article and have a deep appreciation for the content.

I too have a daughter on the autistic spectrum. It is one of the many issues she faces. My wife also gave up her career to care for my daughter as life overwhelmed us. My wife is an incredible woman and it is due to her efforts, strength, intelligence and capacity for empathy that our daughter has progressed as far as she has. Last year was our first year of Secondary school. After the 8 years of battling the system at primary it was life changing. This may be due to the school that we selected and the experience, commitment of the staff there but none of it would have been possible without the funding they receive and what they re able to achieve with it. Although school is progressing well the next questions we are grappling with are the social and community connections; the life skills; what happens after the schooling years, helping her understand the world outside the garden gate. We have found Salisbury college in Nelson that is a residential college for girls with these specialised needs. We have visited. Met the staff, the girls, parents of other girls that attend. It is exactly the support and expertise and environment that will give my daughter the best opportunity for the future as we find ourselves deficient in our ability to deliver this for her. However there are the ever present barriers erected within Education that have to be overcome. We were turned down for the education 'Intensive Wrap-Around Service' last week which is the entry gate to access this college. It feels criminal that the facility is available, funding is available but the humanity, willingness, and the depth of understanding of a child and the situation is absent when making critical decision that have wide and permanent impacts on the lives of our children and their families.

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Erika Harvey
5/14/2018 04:14:25 pm

Thank you for commenting Nick. This is a new side that I wasn't aware of. The impact on our children is devastating and I can only hope that when the budget is released they haven't forgotten about the children of New Zealand. We desperately need education to have a proper shake up. This is not fair. Please keep me posted on your journey. (I've started a facebook page to keep discussions going - fb.com/erikaharveynz if you want to come and join them) Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. My thoughts are with you and your family and I hope that your daughter is able to gain access to the education she deserves. x Kia Kaha.

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Jo
6/28/2018 12:40:40 am

What a wonderfully written letter. Everything I want to say but put beautifully.
We too are parents of not 1 but 3 special needs children. It has been such an emotionally draining road, 14 years after my eldest sons diagnosis of autism we are still learning the system.
Our 10 yr old who has always displayed anxiety and anger has spent more time out of school than in because of the ridiculous lack of funding. We had a meeting in Feb this year to get him the help he needed (after having to move from our local school to 1 that requires us to drive in excess of 300 km a week) we are now nearly in July and we have only just managed to secure 9 weeks teacher aide for him (you wouldn't believe the fight that took!)
Our youngest was born with bilateral hearing loss and what is amazing is that because he is under Van Asche his needs are met brilliantly. A completely different approach than dealing with autism. Never once have we heard the words that his hearing loss isn't "bad enough" to justify a lack of support.

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Jamie
7/7/2018 04:56:31 am

What an amazing mum you are! I am a teacher aide at a high school and work with a variety of gorgeous students, there are good days and bad days and no day is the same and I love every minute of it. These students have taught my own children valuable lessons and compassion and for that I am truly grateful. Over the 12 years I have been blessed to watch our students grow and achieve goals.

Thank you x

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